When it comes to your loved one’s addiction, it’s very common to want to blame yourself. The heartache and frustration you are feeling is common, and as with any challenging diagnosis, it’s easy to say, “why him?”
When it comes to alcohol or drug addiction, you have to first understand that it’s out of your control. And to some extent, it’s also out of your loved one’s control because it’s a chronic disease.
Your son or husband isn’t choosing drugs over you. While your love can help support him, it can’t cure his addiction. Luckily, not all is lost, and our loved one can recover from addiction.
To start, let’s look at the causes of addiction and ways you can effectively talk about addiction with him.
The Causes of Drug and Alcohol Addiction
The root causes of addiction aren’t the easiest to pin down because there isn’t one solitary contributing factor. In fact, these factors can vary from person to person.
This makes addiction even scarier, which is why it is vital for your loved one to seek treatment at a facility that will help identify and treat the underlying causes.
In some instances, addiction happens when there is a genuine need for a drug, but the person becomes dependent on it over time. When a drug helps with symptoms, it’s easy for someone to use it regularly, increasing the likelihood of developing an addiction. We’ve seen this happen with the opioid crisis, where unsuspecting people were given painkiller prescriptions from their doctors.
Alternately, an alcohol or drug dependency can sometimes be caused by forces outside of a loved one’s control. It can happen because of a genetic predisposition. If a family member, especially a parent, struggles with addiction, a person is much more likely to fall into bad habits themselves.
There are also instances of addiction that occur because of mental health issues like depression, anxiety or PTSD. Many people turn to drugs or alcohol to try to numb the pain and distress caused by mental health disorders. When two or more disorders are present simultaneously, it’s vital for them to be treated at the same time.
5 Effective Ways to Communicate with Your Loved One
When it comes to alcohol or drug addiction, effective communication can pave the way for meaningful conversations and lead to healing for both you and your loved one.
Below are 5 effectives strategies for igniting conversation with your loved one:
- Acknowledge your loved one’s addiction and share your feelings. Be honest and upfront about how hurt and concerned you are, but be careful not to cause additional stress. Remember, make sure you talk to your loved one when he’s sober. If he’s drunk or high, he won’t be able to be receptive.
- Express your anger in a positive way. Instead of showing frustration towards your loved one, direct your anger and hate towards the actual disease. Remember, the person you love is still there, he’s just trapped by his addiction and possible co-occurring disorders.
- Show your support for your loved one’s recovery journey. You can’t force someone to get help, but you can absolutely show your support when they choose to get help.
- Meet with an addiction counselor. This will open lines of communication on both sides, while ensuring there is an impartial party there to mediate and direct the conversation.
- Admit you don’t have all the answers. Your loved one doesn’t want to feel as though you are talking down to them. Admit you have questions and that you don’t know everything.
Getting Support at Spirit Mountain Recovery
The best way to truly understand addiction is to seek help. Spirit Mountain Recovery is located in the Wasatch Mountains of Northern Utah. It is our goal to offer our clients remarkable treatment programs for drug and alcohol rehabilitation.
We make it our goal to help the men at our rehab center get the rest, nutrition and exercise they need to reorient their life goals and find happiness outside of addiction. Contact us today to speak to an addiction counselor about the health of your loved one.